Most humans spend their entire life in pursuit of happiness, but many never stand a chance of finding true happiness. So what is the reason that so many people are not happy? What is the secret to happiness? There are three roadblocks to our happiness.
The first and most critical hurdle to finding true happiness is that we do not know ourselves. The real secret to happiness is to know what is important to you. The simple truth is that there is not one universal path to happiness because every person is different and has different dreams and needs. While for one person creating something might be the path to happiness for another person it might be nurturing others. However, we are too often focused on the wrong goals because we listen to popular culture or other people. If we spend the time and energy to concentrate on our dreams and shut out the distractions, then we can find the key to unlocking our happiness.
Another roadblock in our pursuit of happiness is giving too much power to things that do not matter. I have a friend who obsesses over working out, his body image, and making sure he is always eating healthy. He gripes about how much time these obsessions take away from his free time to spend with friends. I am the opposite. While I do wish I was in better shape and had a physique like his, I decided I would not look back and have regret but enjoy the good things in life like food, but within moderation. While working out is on my priority list, it doesn't consume my life. Too often, we spend a lot of time and energy focused on things that do not matter in the long run. Letting the dishes sit in the sink one night while you play a game with your child or pursue a hobby you love will contribute more to your happiness than making sure you do those dishes and then missing out on the life you love.
The final critical element that blocks true happiness for many people is not giving the things that make us happy enough weight in our life. Too often, we dwell on the things we do not have--the bigger house, the newer car, the better job--rather than what we already have that makes us happy--the significant relationships, a house that feels like a home, the rewarding career. The next time you feel low make a list of all that is going right in your life. The chances are that list is a lot longer than you thought, and reviewing it will make you feel better.
The pursuit of happiness should be a lifelong journey! The path to finding true happiness can be rewarding and enjoyable if we remember to know ourselves, let go of the things that do not matter, and cherish the things that do.